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Bitterroot: A Short Story

Roark watched as the mountains eclipsed the sun—night descended early here and he welcomed it. Murmuring the incantation over the medallion, he evoked a violet hue which pulled him in the direction of his pursuit—toward the mountains. Not surprising, he thought, and...

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What’s the point of poetry?

Most people don’t have much ‘use’ for poetry. Its mysteries and meanings don’t reveal themselves easily; the storyline is not always clear. What use is poetry? Poetry’s power (its use if we must) is that it is both cathartic and transformative. It is a tool and a...

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Hustle & Flow

The polarity off hustle and flow in life creates this perfect tension, like the meniscus of water in a glass. Combined, hustle and flow yield a balance—a sweetness—that makes life feel pretty blissful. The problem is that most people are all hustle and no flow or all...

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How to Stop Wondering if Your Voice is Welcome

Who am I to... The other day I was having a conversation with my friend—she's brilliant and unique and amazing, but she still questioned her right to share her message, to ‘take up space’, to be heard. Essentially, she wondered if her voice is...

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How long should I soak these nuts?

Our expression dies without wellness. You think you’re going to jam out your magnum opus through a system clogged with sugar and a brain fogged by substances? No. Sorry, babe, not gonna happen in a way that leaves you feeling good (or alive?) on the other side of it.

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Straight through pain

It’s the avoidance of pain that keeps us stuck. The only way to joy is through pain, not around. Discomfort is there to serve us.

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Honoring the men who made us

I love men. Their difference makes them a curious specimen worthy of intense observation. I enjoy ferreting out the inner workings and idiosyncrasies that are so unlike me and the women I know. It’s not a common refrain, this adoration of men. I don’t know about you,...

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Roots & Wings

A couple weeks ago I was in a yoga class and, in the midst of triangle pose, the idea of grounding to fly popped into my head—so I tucked it away to talk about another day. Then, two days ago, same yoga class different day, the teacher talked about rooting to rise—how...

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What You Call Yourself Matters

I admit it, I hate the word coach. I loathe it for me. Not for the world, and not for anyone else who identifies with it, but, for me, calling myself a coach felt like puking.

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The Friendly Face of Time

Oh our relationship with time. It IS a relationship, and a dysfunctional one for most, unfortunately. In a recent mentoring call I was working with a client around her relationship with time, more specifically, the enmity she felt towards it. Time steals, time takes....

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The Endless Process of Becoming

13.7 billion years (give or take 59 million). That’s how old the universe is. In those billions of years the universe has continued to expand, create, collapse and rebirth. It is, by nature, in an endless state of becoming. The universe, of course, is a macro scale,...

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Trust is not a negotiation with the Universe

Believe me, I’ve tried. I’ve negotiated my way left, right and center with ye olde Universe. And, guess what, it’s never worked out very well. Trust is not an if this/then that conditional statement. Life doesn’t work itself out linearly, but our minds try to make it...

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Strong Back, Open Heart

Sometimes staying open is the last thing we want to do. Instead we’d rather pull down our armadillo armor and ward off any more attacks, any more feelings, any more of what is already enough—too much if we’re being honest. I’ve been there; my word have I been there....

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You Are Meant to Find Your Courage

It’s lingering, ready for the call from you. Raising its hand; hoping you’ll glance its way and grab hold. Courage patiently waits, beseeching you to know your heart, share it with others, and take action on your innermost desires. It asks for your employ so that you...

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On Cultivating Radical Trust

A couple years ago, I was leading a call for my mastermind on trust. Radical trust. One of the women asked me, “Ash, you talk about this unshakable trust, but how do you have it?” It’s a great question. The answer is simple, but it’s not a short fix. “I’ve...

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Today is my Birthday, and THIS is my wish.

For me, birthdays are my new year, my reset, my favorite day to celebrate, honor and love myself. Today, I’m in a volcano; watching the world be created. This planet is remarkable, absurd and awe-inspiring to be sure. In the 408 moons that I’ve been blessed to live in...

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